“WHAT DO I DO?” asked my mother. I had just helped her out of the car at Mc Donald’s. She was confused as to what we were doing. I took her arm and led her inside as I explained that we were at her favorite place, McDonalds. Not four […]
Dementia
It’s Time
I grew up with a mantel clock that tick tock-ed every minute of every day and then struck the appropriate number of gongs on every hour. I never liked the clock. I’m a silence kind of gal and the tick tock-ing drove me crazy. Later, when my mom moved […]
A Little Common Sense
“Why are we here?” she asks me, with what I detect to be a bit of an edge to her voice. I am opening the car door for my mother so I can help her get out to go into the restaurant for her favorite soup that she just told […]
The Milkshake-Another Dementia Adventure with my Mother
I always order her the same thing every time: Cheeseburger, fries and a medium chocolate milkshake. We are at McDonald’s for lunch, my moms favorite. When we woke up at my mom’s house four years ago to find that my step father had died in the night, I asked my […]
The Side By Side
I discovered something so simple and amazing today. It was calming for me and I project for my mother too. I call it “the side by side.” I realized that when I am beside my mother it is so much better than being in front of her. Many songs are […]